Sometimes I don't understand the way girls dress. The motivation in their to dress the way they do is mind boggling to me. Even girls who know and understand what it means to be a follower of Christ and to be in relationship with him. I suppose I should watch what I say, but in all reality, why do girls dress immodestly?
I've heard it said that what you wear is an expression of what is in your heart. If you're heart is to grab attention, and not care about what you wear might make your brothers stumble, then dressing immodestly makes sense. Simply because your motivation is there. But if a young lady understands how visual guys minds are, they would know better the effects their clothing has.
It's not being legalistic, or putting too many rules on a person. It's understanding the reasons why we dress modestly. God gave us 2 greatest commandments, they were to first, love God with all your heart, soul and mind. The second is to love one another. Loving one another is putting them first, before yourself. The heart behind dressing modestly, is love. Do we love our brothers in Christ more than we love the attention that they could give us if we dress immodestly?
I'll be the first to admit that when we dress a certain way, we get attention, and as girls, we like that attention. But at the same time, we have to understand that that attention is not needed. God loves us for who we are, and he gives us all the attention we need! Isn't it more important to protect our brothers in Christ from stumbling, than it is to gain attention for ourselves? When we put ourselves first, it only brings glory to ourselves. Bringing glory to God is way more important than bringing glory to ourselves. What better way to do that then serving others by the way we dress.
Let's face it, the guy that God has for you, will give you attention even if you're wearing a long skirt and long sleeves. He will love you for who you are, not what you wear. God knows that, and he created it that way for a reason. By dressing and acting modestly, you will not only glorify God, but you will also be serving and loving your brothers in Christ.
Acting modestly is something I forgot to mention early. It's not just what you wear, but how you handle yourself. There can be a girl covered in clothing, but if her actions are portraying something other than modesty, that is just as bad as wearing immodest clothing. But that is also a heart condition.
Being modest may be drilled in your head, and it may be something that you've grown up with, but understanding the heart behind it can make all the difference. When you ask God to reveal his heart to you, he will show you that he wants us to live above reproach. If your heart isn't there yet, then ask him to give you that heart. Ask him to show you what it means to be a modest young woman in Him. You will bring glory to his name, i can guarantee it.
My challenge is for you to better know God's heart in this area, and ask him to give you his heart for it, so you may glorify him in actions and in dress.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Communication
Ah yes, the old adage, the better communicator understands more.
Okay, so maybe it's not an old adage but it's so true. This past week has shown me that in more ways than one. God has created us to be creators who desire to be in relationship. And I don't know if you know this, but being in any type of relationship requires work. Even if you don't think it does, it does. You need to understand that.But it also takes a lot of communication. Whether it be talking to one individual, small group or big group. If you don't communicate, it's very hard to operate within that relationship. What does God have to say about communication? He tells us to pray, talk to him and communicate with him. Yeah, the Creator of the Universe wants us communicating with him even though he knows everything we're saying, then you know it's important to do so with people, who know nothing about what is going to happen next.
When someone does not communicate with you, that thought/feeling doesn't exist. How in the world can you expect someone to pick up on that kind of stuff? There is no way to know what someone is thinking or feeling if they don't communicate in some way.
There are many ways to communicate. A few examples are with your body language, your eyes, your mouth, the computer, the telephone, instant messenger, text messages...and the list goes on. The best way to communicate, in my opinion, is face to face. In that context you are able to pick up on the tone of voice, influx in voice, body language and eyes. Each of these are important to notice during a conversation.
The Lord has a lot of ways of communicating with us. Some he talks to, some he gives dreams, some he gives visions, some he gives prophesies, some he gives knowledge, some he gives wisdom. But he knows the best way to get our attention which is why he communicates with everyone differently. God allows us to be who we are in him and he speaks to us in that way.
Remember that communication is key in any relationship. It can make or break it. As sad as that may seem, it's the truth. Don't be afraid to say something, because when that happens, nothing good comes of it. Someone's feelings get hurt cause they don't know what's going on and the relationship is broken, the trust gone down.
The moral of the story, COMMUNICATE! Not only with your family and friends, but with your Savior. First and foremost, your Savior, because then the rest will fall into place.
Okay, so maybe it's not an old adage but it's so true. This past week has shown me that in more ways than one. God has created us to be creators who desire to be in relationship. And I don't know if you know this, but being in any type of relationship requires work. Even if you don't think it does, it does. You need to understand that.But it also takes a lot of communication. Whether it be talking to one individual, small group or big group. If you don't communicate, it's very hard to operate within that relationship. What does God have to say about communication? He tells us to pray, talk to him and communicate with him. Yeah, the Creator of the Universe wants us communicating with him even though he knows everything we're saying, then you know it's important to do so with people, who know nothing about what is going to happen next.
When someone does not communicate with you, that thought/feeling doesn't exist. How in the world can you expect someone to pick up on that kind of stuff? There is no way to know what someone is thinking or feeling if they don't communicate in some way.
There are many ways to communicate. A few examples are with your body language, your eyes, your mouth, the computer, the telephone, instant messenger, text messages...and the list goes on. The best way to communicate, in my opinion, is face to face. In that context you are able to pick up on the tone of voice, influx in voice, body language and eyes. Each of these are important to notice during a conversation.
The Lord has a lot of ways of communicating with us. Some he talks to, some he gives dreams, some he gives visions, some he gives prophesies, some he gives knowledge, some he gives wisdom. But he knows the best way to get our attention which is why he communicates with everyone differently. God allows us to be who we are in him and he speaks to us in that way.
Remember that communication is key in any relationship. It can make or break it. As sad as that may seem, it's the truth. Don't be afraid to say something, because when that happens, nothing good comes of it. Someone's feelings get hurt cause they don't know what's going on and the relationship is broken, the trust gone down.
The moral of the story, COMMUNICATE! Not only with your family and friends, but with your Savior. First and foremost, your Savior, because then the rest will fall into place.
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